Archive for June, 2009

Damn you, careless postal workers!!!

Posted in Outfit on Monday, June 29, 2009 by nightmarewedding

I received terrible news the other day. 

I had commissioned a very talented milliner, Creepsuela Switchletto to make my wedding hat. It’s going to be a really awesome mini top hat with a burlesque flare. I even sent her some of my dress fabric so that it would match my dress. After a few months of waiting (I insisted that she could take her time on my hat order since the wedding is so far away), she finally sent me a message last week informing me that my hat was done. Yay! Just in time for my first appointment with Provocouture Studios to start my dress! Creepsuela boxed up the hat carefully and sent it on its merry way.

A few days later, it arrived back at her front doorstep. The box was all tattered and squished. The hat was virtually destroyed with water damage. I feel terrible about it. It’s not because I’ve been inconvenienced, but I feel really bad that all of Creepsuela’s hard work was wasted because a postal worker was careless with the package. She has to start over from scratch. Thankfully, I still have four months left and there’s still plenty of time to make a new hat. Still, no one should have to make a product twice because the post office screwed up. I’m sorry, Creepsuela!

I shake my fist at you, postal workers!!!

The lesson here for future brides: always start early with projects and commission things early. That way, if stupid things like this happen, you still have plenty of time and little to no reason to fret about replacing it. 

If my maiden name was “Shithouse”, this would be a much easier choice…

Posted in Uncategorized with tags , , , on Saturday, June 20, 2009 by nightmarewedding

To take his name or to stay true to the good ol’ birth name. Ah, the constant debate. For many, I’m sure it’s an easy choice… but when you are quite married to the “take the hubby’s name” tradition, but has ALSO made a name for yourself, making the decision can be a bit more complicated. 

While I’m more or less liberal with everything else, I also admit that I romanticized the idea of taking my husband’s last name. I don’t look at it as a territorial marking, but rather as a symbol of coming together as a single unit. When you share the same last name, I see it as showing ones commitment to be in a family with that person– to have your two separate families become one and to let it grow. If you have kids, sharing the same last name just seems symbolically appealing… not to mention the fact that you don’t have to explain that they are not bastard children even if mom and dad have completely different last names. 

And, well… Mr. Zombie’s last name is… well… pretty bad ass. 

Here is the rub: I am in the process of developing a creative career. While I’m still starting out, my name is already out there making the rounds in its true maiden form: film referrals, business cards, art shows, blogs… hell, I even have a profile on IMDB! If I change my name, I’m scared that professionals in my industry would have a hard time tracking me down and I might lose out on some awesome opportunities. 

So what do I do? I could potentially hyphenate. I mean, it works for Courtney Cox-Arquette, so why not? I guess it boils down me being A: not a huge fan of the dreaded dash and B: too lazy / weirded out by always saying two different last names simultaneously . Yes. I know. Petty excuse. Shut up… but I will have you know that even Anne Brashares made a comment in her Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants series about hyphenated last names being awkward!

I could also potentially just go by one last name for one thing and the other for another. MRS. Zombie for the parent/teacher meetings, tax claims and banking information… MISS Zombie for career-related ventures. But, would that get to confusing? Would I need two different signatures? Oh, the decisions!

Career ladies, how did you figure out your name dilemma? I need all the insight I can get!