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When it finally clicked

Posted in Honeymoon with tags , on Tuesday, November 10, 2009 by nightmarewedding

Mr. Zombie and I had been co-habitating very early on in our relationship. As a result, the leap from single to married life seemed almost non-existent. Everything still felt the same after we got married, so the concept of actually being married didn’t quite click in our heads right away. It didn’t quite click to me specifically until a few days into our honeymoon, when an unfortunate accident led me to realize, “Sweet Zombie Jebus… I really am married!”

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It all started with a bubble bath. Our room at the B&B came with a large hot tub complete with massage jets. Having only a stand-up shower in our loft at home, having access to a bath tub was a huge luxury for Mr. Zombie and I. We really took advantage of it by hopping in the tub at least twice a day, every day. On a quiet Tuesday evening, I had been particularly glued to my iPhone, tweeting away my honeymoon bliss and talking to a friend of mine from Toronto through Ping. I left my phone on a face cloth beside the tub and hopped in. After a half hour cooking in the hot water, I hopped back out since I started to feel light-headed. I left the phone beside the tub. Mr. Zombie, who was also starting to feel quite faint from the hot water decided that he was going to soak a face cloth with cold water and rest it on his forehead while he sat in the tub for longer. So… there he was… reaching for the face cloth, not noticing that my iPhone was sitting on top of it.

SPLASH! Goes my iPhone.

To anyone who owns an iPhone, you would understand how horrific this situation was. We desperately blow dried the phone, sifted through Apple forums and whispered sweet-nothings to it in a lame attempt to revive it. Alas, my phone did not survive its bath.

The next morning, we high tailed to the nearby Apple Store to get my phone fixed at the Genius Bar. Mr. Zombie had set up an appointment for me the night prior. We stood in front the Genius Bar and checked out the screen to see where we stood in the cue. I looked for my name. “Miss Zombie. There is no Miss Zombie…. but who the hell is Mrs. Zombie?”

“That’s you. Mrs. Zombie,” Mr. Zombie said.

“Oh, right. We’re married now.” It finally clicked.

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My iPhone was replaced after paying my “I’m a moron” penalty fee. I also signed a form with my brand spankin’ new married signature. We were so excited about this momentous occasion that we had to play tourist and take a photo.

So there you have it: it all finally clicked in the middle of the Apple Store in Montreal. I suppose that given the geek factor, this was probably the most appropriate situation for everything to sink in.

I’m now Mrs. Zombie!

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If my maiden name was “Shithouse”, this would be a much easier choice…

Posted in Uncategorized with tags , , , on Saturday, June 20, 2009 by nightmarewedding

To take his name or to stay true to the good ol’ birth name. Ah, the constant debate. For many, I’m sure it’s an easy choice… but when you are quite married to the “take the hubby’s name” tradition, but has ALSO made a name for yourself, making the decision can be a bit more complicated. 

While I’m more or less liberal with everything else, I also admit that I romanticized the idea of taking my husband’s last name. I don’t look at it as a territorial marking, but rather as a symbol of coming together as a single unit. When you share the same last name, I see it as showing ones commitment to be in a family with that person– to have your two separate families become one and to let it grow. If you have kids, sharing the same last name just seems symbolically appealing… not to mention the fact that you don’t have to explain that they are not bastard children even if mom and dad have completely different last names. 

And, well… Mr. Zombie’s last name is… well… pretty bad ass. 

Here is the rub: I am in the process of developing a creative career. While I’m still starting out, my name is already out there making the rounds in its true maiden form: film referrals, business cards, art shows, blogs… hell, I even have a profile on IMDB! If I change my name, I’m scared that professionals in my industry would have a hard time tracking me down and I might lose out on some awesome opportunities. 

So what do I do? I could potentially hyphenate. I mean, it works for Courtney Cox-Arquette, so why not? I guess it boils down me being A: not a huge fan of the dreaded dash and B: too lazy / weirded out by always saying two different last names simultaneously . Yes. I know. Petty excuse. Shut up… but I will have you know that even Anne Brashares made a comment in her Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants series about hyphenated last names being awkward!

I could also potentially just go by one last name for one thing and the other for another. MRS. Zombie for the parent/teacher meetings, tax claims and banking information… MISS Zombie for career-related ventures. But, would that get to confusing? Would I need two different signatures? Oh, the decisions!

Career ladies, how did you figure out your name dilemma? I need all the insight I can get!